Quando o espelho se quebra : a sede de vingança nos meandros da paixão

Abstract

This study addresses the overwhelming, unbridled passion theme, when bodies and psyches interpenetrate to the point of losing their boundaries. However, when this amalgam begins to fade and the image of the other to fragment, something unexpected arises from those pieces: the thirst for revenge, along with a fury that does not measure damage, even in children. This uncontrolled destination invites us to follow the traces of the psychic constitution principles in order to reach those old times, when we were one with the primary object. Could we assume that the destructiveness of love relationship conflicts are hate echoes from that time, when one was forced to recognize otherness? In search of an answer to this question, we go through Freud’s idea of primary narcissism, and Klein’s archaic object relations theory until we can understand the logic of revenge found in love relationship ruptures. Finally, we realize that those who are ambushed by these narcissistic traps, can again mix their ego boundaries, this time, with their children; involving them in vengeful plots, not always intentionally, but that summon the juridical field to give support by means of laws (such as the Law of Parental Alienation) to the psychic limits that were lost.